Daisies- The heart of a Soldier

“They symbolise innocence, purity , and positivity.” – Web

The world outside his or her olive greens is overwhelming for the soldier whether he or she walks into the world either as a mortal or simply as a bodiless soul. The world looks so new, like a new leaf.

When I stepped out of the boots , I felt I was in some time machine. Everyone was so in their hustle , and me scuttling to catch up with them in vain. CoVID came as a rescue (yes seriously!).

When I was making attempts to hold the sand in my hand, the world had to come to a standstill. This might sound so selfish but it was not just my wish but heart of heart of every soul on this planet. Everything was fast, and that made it senseless, just like a fast driven car repelling all the breeze that could have been felt by you, but the speed fades away your senses… or May be like a bottle of spirit that distances you from yours…You forget to feel.

The numbness of ourselves was the most dangerous thing that had happened to the mankind because of the gadgets. We preferred touching screens then souls..

But lockdown came as a blessing in disguise (though the most horrific one, almost a lesson learnt in the hardest possible way). We realised (at-least few of us) that the gadgets can’t appease you for long. You need people !! Real people! And this was something we Soldiers are good at handling ,people vis-a-vis Facebook pages.

When you speak it’s not just words , it’s your eyes that talk.. and when that’s not happening, the conversation is just another boring chat. The satiation comes only when the soulful self of two people connect and this depends on the depth of your eyes and your thoughts. Just like the purity of the daisies.

Our uniform takes through numerous moments of life and death few mortal and few mental. And in these moments we learn to touch people with utmost purity , innocence and optimism so that all that the other person receives is humaneness in its purest state. Soldiers connect not to be forgotten but at some point of life be remembered as a beautiful flower that brought smiles!

Resonate with what you relate to…

When was the last you walked to the top of hill and screamed in the valley that lay below, only to find your voice as an echo?

Resonance is a very interesting phenomenon… if you read the concept you would realise. It’s more than just sound…

“It is defined as the reinforcement or prolongation of sound by reflection from a surface or by the synchronous vibration of a neighbouring object.”

– Definition from the Internet

The interesting part is the synchronised vibration with the neighbouring object is not possible until both commensurate with each other..

In the world of virtual bonding , and the increasing desire for approval, we are somehow losing on connecting with people whom we relate to. Likes, dislikes in the virtual world may give momentary happiness but what about eternal solace?

“The one who socialises mindlessly , is the most lonely person.”

-Nithi CJ

With socialising becoming a trend more on our devices, we have forgotten to connect with anyone on an aim beyond few drinks and few bites. In just few minutes of any gathering, we see the dissipation of focus into individual handsets. What about the conversations and the connections you desire to create with the like minded?

It is important to select your company in such a manner… and express only to them who understand and relate; and are sensitive to your thoughts. Casual hangouts can only ‘hang’ you ‘out’ momentarily from your actual self, but the question is how long can you keep hanging?

Won’t it be better if you could resonate with someone whom you relate?

The Language that killed an Emperor

The duals fought in historical courts between poets is a tradition still revered as one of the most intellectual and literary traditions. Not just poets, musicians, educators, all strived to make a mark on the mind donned by the royal throne.

The commonality between the above historical artists is the language. Language has been the showcase for religions, regions , mindsets and different realms. Today let’s look into one such realm.

In the book titled,” Adrishya” on the greatest spies of Indian history, the mention of Bardai opens up uniquely different dimension of spy craft. Most unassuming individuals hidden with most unassuming skills often make it to this strata of warfare. And when you read about Bardai, this is more evident.

The chapter speaks of the extraordinary skills of Bardai in spy craft, but most historically significant was the use of Brij Bhasha as a secure means of communication. As we commemorate Hindi Diwas today it’s imperative to know little more about this language.

As per Britannica ,” Braj Bhasha language, also spelled Braj Bhasa, Braj Bhakha, or Brij Bhasa, language descended from Shauraseni Prakrit and commonly viewed as a western dialect of Hindi. It is spoken by some 575,000 people, primarily in India. Its purest forms are spoken in the cities of Mathura, Agra, Etah, and Aligarh.”

Who knew this dialect would carve a great part of India’s Historic Journey? So back to Bardai. Bardai had the poetic skills which made his communications with Prithviraj Chauhan more worthy to etched into a book. And none other than Chand Bardai himself wrote the epic ,” Prithviraj Raso” in Brij Bhasa.

“In the world of intelligence-gathering, jargon acts as a much needed veil of secrecy. “-Web

Brij was that veil to the association of Bardai and Prithviraj especially while executing tactical activities. When Prithviraj was imprisoned by Mohammad Ghori , Chand Bardai strategised a plan to help Prithviraj kill his enemy as escape wasn’t possible. Bardai spread this rumour that Prithviraj can aim by hearing and the sold this to Ghori , who blindly believed Bardai as by then Bardai had established his influence on Ghori. An Archery competition was organised where Bardai played this ace of spades about Prithviraj’s skill. Ghori’s curiosity about his enemy coerced him to witness this skill. And that’s when Bardai recited,

“चार बांस चौबीस गज अंगुल अष्ट प्रमाण ता ऊपर सुल्तान है मत चूके चौहान !”

-Prithiviraj Raso by Chand Bardai

The same verse and the event has been narrated in this excerpt from the Book ‘Adrishya’.

Excerpt of the Chapter on Chand Bardai from the book ‘Adrishya’

This excerpt clearly brings out that how Brij was used as a secret language akin to signal codes of the modern era. The explanation of the enemy’s location in Brij gave Prithviraj the exact clarity which he needed to aim at Ghori. This brings out the need to have a very in depth understanding of the language.

This historical account of Chand Bardai and Prithviraj Chauhan is only one drop as a witness to the advancement and vision already seen by the ancient India in terms of how evolution of language can exceed beyond the spheres of mundane human communication to significant military craftsmanship!

The Symbolism-Paradox of Womanhood

Flash back to “Kuchh kuchh hota hai”, Kajol who was a tomboy in college , walks in wearing a saree and makes Shahrukh fall for her. Suddenly, “he feels that he is in love”. It’s nothing but idiotic infatuation glorified. We all suffer from this OCD even when it comes to our personalities. We get into defining people … she’s a tomboy, yaar she’s so girly… oh god isn’t she too bold ??? And the list never ends.

Then comes in symbolism. It can be seen being sympathised for ‘short hair’ to “Oh Nithi, you’re in the Army ? But u don’t look like ?”

This is a never ending psychological controversy. The main reason for this is our emotionally exaggerating selves.

Isn’t it possible for a soldier to where a cocktail dress and yet maintain her professional demeanour? She very well can! (Disclaimer: please don’t drag the uniform this !!! Because the sanctity of the uniform should not be experimented with..) So what if she wants to feel solemn by wearing a saree for an occasion? You will then see sarcasm knocking there.

At the same time there are people who are over concerned about “oh my god how do you wear those heavy boots?!! Poor girl!!”

We reach nowhere in this! Actually!!

Interesting is what we are left with as identities especially women? Either one who’s portraying to be a non conformist by ‘equating’ men through their appearances or one who portrays as an idealist by being conventional and socially acceptable.

I am reminded of Sadhguru’s quote that the believer and the non believer are on the same side… they both believe in something. Beliefs make us shallow , rather, we must endeavour for experience!! Want to sport a western dress do it !! Want to be ethnic the next day, do it!!! Let the superficialities of our attires don’t affect your identities, let them be cherished only as recreation for oneself, just to feel good , feel happy for yourself, cherish culture , not for portraying it to people!!

I hope this made sense to you!!! Simply enjoy what you want to be today !!!

No More in the Night Shine

I no more gaze into the glitter of the darkness..

I no more silence myself in the cosmetic laughs..

Yes I still relish few musical notes

with my intoxication..

But I no more ache myself into a drunken farce..

I be with people who are my own..

I no more smile at faces unknown..

I no more cloak my true self..

For ticking my social presence..

I have shredded that skin..

That skin we wear before we step out of our homes..

To mingle in the glitter and glamour..

To be accepted,


and ‘adored’..

And satiate ourselves

with temporary happiness..

I am happy..

I no more have to do that..

My space looks akin to solitude ..

But we are never alone!!

What about your soul ?

Which accompanies you..

In sadness and galore..

Tonight I sit peacefully

with a soul bonded to mine..

His calm presence comforts

more than wine..

Many a ‘-demics’

will come and go

Nothing can kill the joy..

Cherish it till you breathe..

Because you are the hero,

in this ploy!!

– Nithi CJ

Wriflections 101: Does your handwriting really change?

“Nithi you will be amazed my handwriting keeps changing!” This is has been the most common statement I have heard from people who interact with me on this subject. So today I thought to bust this myth. When we discuss traits they’re divided in two categories fixed and unfixed. Let me explain how these traits work with the example of comparing attitude vs aptitude.

Attitude vs Aptitude

Our subconscious thoughts are the foundation of our handwriting. Our day to day activities, observations , expressions , feelings that we experience in an activity/ moment. This keeps modulating depending how we deal situations. This ultimately forms what we call attitude. And thus, it’s an unfixed trait.

Aptitude on the other hand is derived from the genetic intelligence we are blessed with, the capabilities. It is the default system of our human self and thus, it is static, it won’t change . It is this potential of acquiring new skills that makes us unique from each other.

Traits in a Handwriting

The fixed traits like aptitude, remain constant in a handwriting. For example if an individual has the potential to grasp skills in a particular genre very well , that will be permanent. These potentials can be known to the individual. Many a times , when I do analysis , I have noticed, that my clients have been unaware of some of their potentials. And why this happens is best understood from the Johari Window concept which states that many of our truest potentials are unknown to us and known or unknown to people.

Attitude , on the other hand, will keep modulating based on what we feel about an activity/ task or situation. And thus, you may notice changes in your handwriting samples.

Aspects of Handwriting that change frequently

Some of the aspects in the handwriting that change are:-

• the slants of the handwriting (left, right and straight),

• the space between letters and words,

• the horizontal spacing between lines,

• the alignment of the paragraphs and,

• the alignment of the baseline of a sentence.

When to consult a graphologist?

In case you have noticed drastic changes in any of the following traits then , I suggest you consult a graphologist:-

• in the slants in your handwriting especially extreme left or right, or a mixture of both.

• haphazard spacings, especially extreme overlapping of letters both horizontally and vertically.

• frequently changing baselines.

So these are few tips on why your handwriting changes and if it is appearing to change frequently, what one should do ! Hope this article helps you in resolving your handwriting challenges!

Disclaimer: It is advised not to self assess the traits discussed in this article. These have been discussed in isolation and don’t give out the complete personality. It is advised to consult a certified graphologist in case of noticing the ambiguities mentioned. The views expressed are based purely on the author’s experiences.

Wriflections 101: Shape of letters

There is so much that the mere shape of your letters can reveal! Does this intrigue you? Well read on for more surprises.

When we talk of different shapes and sizes of handwritings it is explained further in this article

Small sized writing. The average size of a handwriting can be understood as one fitting between the top and bottom line of one row in a singled line notebook. Small sized writing are people who are focused on their goals but not a larger picture of things. They’re detail oriented and often experts in their own fields.

Large letters. These people are eccentric and contribute to society both through activities and financial contributions but this is focused with the purpose of being relevant in the society.

Very tiny letters. These people are humbled souls and their strength is their humility. But in truth they’re the people silently contributing to development of a society or nation building.

Round letters. These people are organised and cleanliness conscious. These people create very organised environments in both work and personal life.

Illegible overlapping letters. These people have stacked up to many things at once and this is the reason that they are often confused and decision making is difficult.

So which kind of a writer are you?

Tell me in the comments section.

Disclaimer no trait in isolation can be a deciding factor for an individual’s personality. Please don’t apply the knowledge sharing beyond self application as that needs deeper graphological assistance.

Wriflections 101: Good Vs Bad Handwriting

The biggest myth that we all suffer from is that we must not write if we have a bad handwriting.

Let me ask you a question is here, you want to learn a new hobby , initially you fail, but soon you notice refinement in that. Why ? Because it’s your interest! You don’t get disheartened at initial failures. Then what happens with writing ? Is it lack of interest? Is it not wanting to break the inertia ? Or is it a mind block?

The benefits of writing has been evident is all spheres , creativity, art, professional development, personality enhancement. Do you think someone with a legible handwriting wrote the same way on the first day ??? No!!! They started just like you! But didn’t give up!

The beauty of your handwriting will not come if you keep thinking about it, the beauty of your handwriting will come when you lovingly accept it.

Tip for the day

• Write down what stops you from writing. • Think how can you overcome this. • Create a writing habit step by step, one at a time.

This small exercise is a good way to deal situations which are limiting yourself to take up any activity. Writing is a commitment to the self !

So be proud to be Unique!

Warm Regards,


Murphy’s Laws for Fountain Pen Lovers (Sunday Special with Vishal Singhi )

Warning : Strictly Humour Intended.

If there was a set of Murphy’s law for fountain pen users I think they would be

1. Just when I think I have got a good discount on a pen, someone shares a better deal. #for me who like to look for deals

2. The only pens I decided to give a pass many years ago are the ones most sought after today.

3. Just when I feel I have all blue inks in the world, there comes a new launch. #when it’s just not enough

4. The more expensive the pen, higher the probability of it falling nib down. #so true and painful

5. The choice of your grail is inversely proportional to size of your wallet.

6. “This one is my last purchase” somehow always turns into second last; and it goes on.

7. The ink will run out the day you will carry only one fountain pen

8. The more you like a pen and more you want it sooner, the longer the pen mail takes to reach you. #poor courier service – why does it happen to me always 😉

9. The pen for sale message on social media (for the pen you badly want) will come only when you are away from your phone for 15 mins.

10. The pen you want the most is the one that somebody just bought the last one.

11. Just when you give up bidding on eBay, the next bid is the winning bid. #i gave up on ebay

12. If you have money, you will not find the pen you are looking for and vice versa. #works every time

13. The speed at which the pen wants to come to you is inversely proportional to the how much you want it to come to you.

14. When a good pen comes, it’s always the wrong time of the month.

15. Just when you feel your particular model collection is complete, the brand will launch two new colours

#shall I blame lamy and twisbi for this?

16. Just when you realise you have majority pens with M nib, you start enjoying BB nibs.

17. Every time I have bargained , I lost the pen to someone else. And every time I didn’t, I overpaid.

18. 90% of the people with beautiful pens have bad handwriting.

#no offence just little humour

19. The more carefully I pack my inks for vacation, the higher the chances of spilling or breakage in transit.

20. The usage of the pen is inversely proportional to its price.

#did I just say too much

Note: This is just for some light humour and fun, no offence to anyone meant

Author: Mr Vishal Singhi, Founder, The India Pen Show. His activities can be reached at,+91 98203 97534 and http://www.theindiapenshow.com .

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